Venting Room

Everyone needs to rant or vent now and then. Here we have the perfect place to do so. In this room you can throw dishes, yell, scream, have a go at the punching bag, safely hit the padded walls. Whatever you need to do to release all that tension, the exception of using profanity as we are a family site.

I can't imagine how I missed this room last week. Could have used a little venting to get rid of the tightness in my neck,back and arm..
This room is almost too pretty to unload in! Are those safely padded walls?
I'll keep this in reserve but I had rare day off (even unemployed I work..how's that suppose to happen?) and things are a little looser.

I'd love a nice adult beverage but the mix with the meds would not be wise..so..maybe I could rough up a purple pillow or two and yell about the unfairness of wild nerve endings.

Hope you are feeling better Maxecat. Yes the walls in this room are safety padded, so pound away that stress anytime.

My Mom says she works more now that she doesn't have a job than when she did

I've heard that before,Weesa...I think people have more free time to play when they're working for someone else!!!! I dread looking at my to do list...

Have you ever heard of "honey,do" lists? The lists wives supposedly give their husbands on weekends for chores around the house and yard???? Well I'm the only honey around here who gets to do those things...sigh...

Have no vents today!!!!

I have had enough of the so called commitees who choose the nominees for awards and induction into hall of fames. Honestly I think that these people are just sitting in their offices oblivious to what the fans are really enjoying. I've been disappointed ever since Lord of The Rings was nominated and actually awards while Harry Potter has barely received a single acknowledgement. Personally I think the entire cast of all eight movies should receive an Oscar for the brilliant job they did in bringing such a well loved story to life. What hit me most today though was the so called Rock and Roll Hall of Fame's newest list of nominees for induction. I've never even heard of some of these people. I don't think they even remember what actual true Rock-N-Roll is. They should induct people based on fan input not who the committee likes because honestly in my opinion The Beastie Boys have not done a great for the genre or music in general for that matter. They have yet again snubbed my own fave band (Bon Jovi) but that's not even close to the stupidity they are showing with the women in rock exhibit. I know there are many male bands that fans will say can challenge each other for recognition, but that is no the case when it comes to women in the industry. There is no question in my mind (or the minds of many others) that when it comes to an female rock band that Heart rules, yet they are continually ignored by this soh called Hall of Fame. These snubs combined with those committed by the movie awards are just more proof in my opinion that these things are rigged by the administration. I'd love to see an award program that recognizes the amazing talent of those who truly deserve it, but I won't hold my breath. rant over

Weesa, I was in the midst of commenting yesterday when I had to leave the computer.
It is a mystery how these things go. I don't understand what certain committees mean by contribution to an art medium anyway.

I have to agree,though,with everyone who voted for the honoring of the LOTR's movies. What the producers and writers did with that monsterous piece of literature was visually stunning and also told the story. The characters they included were fleshed out and given their tale to tell. I feel the Potter producers were not as diligent and were more interested in flashy special effects than including major story hints if not story lines.
For example,since DH2 was a story (stories) about redemption and loss,could they have included more of the Dursely departure,showing Dudley having a glimpse of redemption,Vernon,nothing as usual,and Petunia holding something back. Harry did not have his speech to Voldemort telling him it wasn't too late to feel remorse and redeem some part of himself.
These bits would have taken a few minutes,instead at the end we had the drawn out business with Harry and Voldemort flying all over the castle.

Special effects versus bringing up Jo's well crafted offering of redemption at any time of life.

As for the musical mystery...I doubt in 20 years people are going to remember some of the hip hop and rap nonsense (I hope) The only thing it's contributed is rudeness and noise. There was a wonderful article Larry showed me online,from CNN ,I believe, where a writer bemoaned the loss of R&B music. He was black and mourned the old musicians who brought seduction and love to their songs,not vulgarity.
A lot of music is now at the control of the producers with their magical auto tune machines..now anyone can make a song,but not every one can make music.

So many great talents go unrecognized by committee but are adored by fans...in the long run,I guess that's best.

Didnn't mean it to sound as though LoTR didn't deserve recognition, I personally do not enjoy the books or movies but Mom has them all and says they did a good with the movies. I meant to say that it seemed as though the Potter movies didn't exist when it came to award shows. I do agree that there are many things that would have made them even better but I really do think that given what they had to work with the actors/actresses who brought the characters to life deserve to be recognized for it.

As for music I listen to many genres but when it comes to the music of today I just can't take most of it.
The producers in charge need to get a grip and allow true musicians to shine through instead of all the so called artists who are doing nothing but ruining the young with all the violence and sex they put into "songs" now.

I think most of the music heard now is fairly forgettable. Love my oldies.

I agree there's been a real disconnect between Hollywood and Harry...perhaps it was because Jo insisted on an all English production??? Hardly matter...the books and films are spectactularly popular and will be long after all the homegrown garbage is forgotten.

I think there's a certain snobishness involved,maybe because the books are so popular,maybe because the films are considered kiddie stuff...we love them and are faithful to them.

Maybe we should have our own Oscar's party should DH2 not be nominated ...

I think an Oscars party would be great Maxie!

You would think that for set design alone, besides the creature department, etc. Should get an Oscar! Unbelievable. I guess you really do have to buy those babies, and WB has not been sharing the wealth. We know how fantastic they are. Their popularity and Jo's bank account shows how fabulous the whole kit & caboodle is!

Worth a rant for that!

For all the hoopla about the awards,people are going to watch and enjoy the movies that have some meaning for them. You loved Avatar,I couldn't bear watching the trailers for it. I know ladies who've seen the Twilight movies numerous times in the theatre,I was embarrassed for all involved when I saw them on tv.I'm sure many don't appreciate my love for Pulp Fiction and The Big Lebowski.
Awards or no,big box office or not,the films that entertain us get our loyalty.

WB is going to win no matter what because the fans support the Potter franchise.They know they don't need to push for critical acclaim,the movie/merchandise profit will be coming in anyway.

I think this says it well!

Love it Always. Perhaps after fixing Maxine's office he could fix Washington D.C.

I'm thinking it'll take Michael the Archangel and all the help he can muster to take on the mess in Washington. It seems to get worse every election...are people really buying the slick ads?

I don't know what they are buying but I really think they need to double check the labels before making these purchases. To add to idiocy I saw something today about the leader of Afghanistan saying he wants our soldiers out of his villages. Really, after we've been helping his country all this time, the man has nerve. I don't understand it.

Have been trying to figure out why my Granny's best friend stop answering letters and email for a few years now. Very nice lady and always there for a phone chat when Granny called. Granny was a non-computer person so Margie would email me messages sometimes and I would pass them on. I also kept her informed on how Granny was doing. Then her husband passed away and later that year she just disappeared. I had no idea how to reach any of her family so the only thing I do was Google her name and hope for the best. I tried really hard to find her so I could let her know Granny had passed away in October but found nothing. My Great Uncle and his wife knew her too and heard from her that one or more of her kids wanted to put her in a facility because they didn't want to wait for their inheritance. Sadly last night I found this is what happened they put her in a nursing home where she died this past December. I just don't understand why people do this, this woman was very active and even on a local council in the town government at the time. If she really did need to be in a facility they could have let her keep in touch with friends (and they knew of Granny having lived at my grandparents house when they were children and she left their dad) who were concerned about her and missed her. I guess I'll have to be satisfied that now they are both at peace and perhaps have met up again to giggle like school girls while talking about the good ole days. I do have the ability to make sure she isn't forgotten and her other friends know she's passed, she'll be added to memorial with Granny when Great Uncle & Aunt go to the memorial service this year at the orphanage/school where they all went as children. She's also earned a spot in my own genealogy records as I've made a note of her there as Granny's friend.

Weesa what a terrible story. I hope that she had become disabled a bit and that the children were not really that greedy. Maybe that is why she didn't get in touch with you. That just makes me so sad for her final time here. I agree it is nice to think of them together enjoying themselves.

It is a difficult decision to make and I can't imagine doing it for money. We are watching my Dad closely as he starts to go down hill. He loves his independence and we wouldn't think of taking it away unless he was a danger to himself.

Weesa,my heart goes out to you.It is frustrating to have people you care about simply disappear from your life.
Happened a few years ago with the woman who was my closest friend. From the day we met she always commented how I was another sister (and she had a large family) We shared more good times than bad and then suddenly she stopped both calling and answering the phone. No one at the house returned phone messages. Some time before this estrangement I had sent her a box of books to read while she was tending her ill mother and she never acknowledged receiving it...something so out of character I wondered if she was even living in Atlanta anymore.
Finally I sent a note thanking her for 20 years of laughter,good advice and great book recommendations. I expressed sorrow that time and distance seemed to interupt our friendship but to have anything but grateful thoughts about our years together would be a disservice to our relationship.
A few months later I received a phone call that showed me the strain she was under caring for all the elderly members of her family.I wish I could have made things better but it was obvious whatever I had meant to her years ago was no longer there.I've grieved more for the loss of that connection than for the loss of my first marriage.
I'll never know why my friendship was no longer important to her,and I've finally stopped worrying about it. I know when we were together we cared about each other and made a positive difference in each others' lives...and those memories are always dear to me.

Margie knows by now you've been looking for her and she's definitely in a good place.Whatever happened with her family didn't affect the way she felt about yours and now she and your gran can carry on better than before.

Thanks for the kind words. I can see Granny and Margie carrying on their friendship. I was able to listen to them chatting about their school days and it was very illuminating. I saw Granny a bit differently and felt a lot closer to her afterwards having heard her stories. I also saw that even 50 years after leaving school they were still giggly girls at heart. As for Margie's family she told Granny that her children never really forgave her for leaving their father (he was abusive so they are delusional in my opinion) and felt that they were entitled. I think it's their loss she was a terrific lady who deserved better but will not be forgotten.

There's nothing like seeing your grandparents (or parents for that matter) acting like young kids..you know,normal.. to give you a real appreciation for their lives.It also gives a better understanding of how they made their decisions and moved forward.

Weesa, I'm so sorry about the loss of your grandma's friend Margie. It is nice you can see them together having a good time now. I want you to know that you are a great inspiration for me with your behaviour and feeling to old people.

Maxecat, sorry for loss of such a appreciated friendship. I think sometimes there is end of some relationship without particular reason. Maybe you have solved your debits from previous lifes and your ways just split. At least you have nice memories.

Weesa, I am sorry about your Granny’s friend, and maxecat, sorry about the loss of your friend.

Alas, people change and many people stop friendships.

Also, life is movement, and if people don’t progress, they start going downhill.

This isn’t personal. This has happened to me with many friends and relatives.

I have a cousin who I have always felt close to even though we no longer live close. This birthday, for the 1st time, she didn’t wish me happy birthday. When I wished her happy birthday a month later…she remembered and said she did not know why she forgot my birthday. At Christmas, no card for the 1st time. I only know what she is doing because she posts on Facebook. I know she has had a hard year, but I feel hurt.

MMD I have noticed this about many people lately, they seem to feel that a FB entry is tantamount to an invitation sent by courier directly to you & every single person on their list. They do not understand the very nature of the personal touch it takes to mail cards and letters, how important that visceral feel of excitement in finding a letter or something in the mail that is not a bill or an advertisement. It is sad. Another reason we are close to losing the USPS.

People don't send much to each other any more.

It's why I send Maxie cards as often as I find special ones - she is the closest thing to the mother I wanted in this life & didn't get - so I love to perk up her day with odd cards. Another reason why I send so many Christmas cards. Yes, it can be expensive. I buy my cards on sale after Christmas. Yes, it is a lot to mail them. But I like to support the USPS. I also like recieving mail back, so always hope that others will be spurred to sending cards. Doen't happen much, but sometimes...

Yes Karentia,

I agree. The sad thing about my cousin is she always sent me cards and letters...and now she doesn't even seem to know I exist. I have always been nice to her. I didn't insult her. She has had a hard year...her close sister in law died and she had to retire. It is like she is mad at the world and can't bounce back.

You are a thoughtful person. I appreciate the lovely harp card you sent me as well as the xmas cards.

Thank you MMD - I appreciate my friends so much!

Magical Music Dreamer,every few months I get a note from my younger son wondering about the nature of friendship. His is a very giving soul and he loves to send cards,emails and funny gifts to people he likes..no strings attatched but, like Karen, he likes to let people know he appreciates them.
And, so often he's puzzled why his friends are so inconsistent with their responses,or when he makes the effort to arrange to meet them when he's back home they're vague about being available.He doesn't believe in disposable friendships,each place he moves to or works in is simply an opportunity to make new friends.

As for FB,it's great for casually keeping up with people but it involves a style of friendship that's totally foreign to me.

It takes effort to get to know and understand people and online posts or even written letters don't always present the correct tone (though those cute emoticons help giving clues as to intent)

I think we're probably all guilty of inadvertently stepping on toes or hurting feelings but all we can do is try to keep reaching out and keeping contact. I know I love something in the mail besides ads and bills.
One of the reasons I like making my little collage cards is to put a bit of myself into the card,adding a little spell or charm to wish the recipient well.
We might be a dying breed,us postal users...